Shoe Meet Other Foot

[shipperx]

You know, every few months I admit to spending time on the Days of Our Lives board while confessing that I don't actually watch the show any more (I know that my continuing addiction in keeping up with the board makes this protest difficult to believe, but... believe it or not, this is the truth.  It's just that I did watch the show for close to twenty years and became board addict ages ago).   And, I should point out that the Days forum that I currently visit is on TWOP.  This is pertinent information for the buh-wha-huh?! role swapping that follows.

You see the Days forum on TWOP is consumed with EJami shippers (translates to EJ/Sami).  They loves them, they do.  Gobs and gobs. There are squees daily about EJ and Sami's interaction and how they are so perfect for one another.  And it really doesn't hurt that EJ is very, very handsome, looks fantastic without a shirt, and has a yummy English accent ( I freely admit all these things).  But I have issues with EJami.  Actually less with EJami the characters because, let's face it, the show is shit and always has been.  Plus, I really don't care.   Besides, if one looks to Days for logic, you're totally out of luck.    However, I do find myself reading EJami posts and suddenly empathizing with Spike haters (though I still say they're wrong and I could go into great detail as to why.)   You see, the thing about EJami is...

He raped her.  Not "almost" raped her, not "attempted" rape her. And that's splitting hairs, I know, but in EJ's case I'm talking about holding a gun to her head and saying (paraphrased) "have sex with me or your fiance dies and quite possibly you too" - rape.   Oh, and this was just minutes after he shot her stepfather (who raised her) in the head, leaving said stepfather braindead (for a time. He got better six months later.  ... It's Days, don't ask for this to make sense) meaning that EJ was on the run from the police for that crime when he stopped to rape Sami.  

Did I mention that he had kidnapped, brainwashed and tortured her uncle?  How about the fact that he murdered a cop? Beat his own henchman to within an inch of his life?  He also intended to kill two other people: also, relatives of hers.  He's fantasized about killing her husband so that he could claim her himself-- over the husband's dead body.  Literally.    Then he tried to kill her husband by freezing him to death.   He's blackmailed her.  He's coercing her to divorce the husband she loves and is pregnant by, and is currently trying to force her to marrying him instead.  Oh, and when she refuses next week, he'll threaten to kill her sister if she doesn't comply and he may very well murder her stepfather instead.

All of this has happened and is happening, and I get itchy feelings when I read on TWOP how "sanctimonious" Sami's family is because they keep insisting that EJ and his family are evil and that she shouldn't be forced to marry him.  What hypocrits!  How dare Bradys judge EJ and his family!   I actually found myself posting there the other day asking if I was the only one who remembered that EJ's family has been torturing Bradys for the last twenty -plus years?  When Sami was a kid, they kidnapped and inprisoned both her parents -- for years.  They kidnapped her uncle for 15 years.  They brainwashed her stepfather a number of times.  They kidnapped and brainwashed her aunt.  "Murdered" her father, her mother, and her grandmother -- TWICE!  --  In one YEAR!  (No death on Days ever "takes" and it makes three times in total they've "killed" her parents anyway.  Possibly four in her father's case.)  If Sami's family considered, even for a moment, that  EJ's family might not be evil,  they would have to be too stupid to live (Actually, they are.  But this goes back to Days being shit).  I'm afraid after DiMera's have kidnapped, killed, and brainwashed damn near every person in her family (hell, in the whole damn town) multiple times, I just don't see the hypocrisy in their saying to Sami that she should not be forced to marry him, even if every Brady isn't a plaster saint.

The EJamis swoon and root  for "DiMarriage."  They cackle with glee when EJ tells Sami's current husband that he'll raise the man's children in the DiMera way, meaning they'll hate their father's family too.  And he tries to pressure her into marrying him by threatening to murder her sister if she dares to say no.

I find myself with the urge to tell the EJami shippers that they only fanwank away EJ's (current and ongoing) crimes because of the ship they want, that they overlook a lot of things because the actor is handsome and more talented than most of the cast, and because they are newbies and fangirls, yo.  

You can see why this urge makes me distinctly uncomfortable.  And I've restrained myself thus far.  But... 

I remember the old BtVS flame wars (where I truly haven't changed my mind.  I can argue my side and don't consider myself to be hypocritical in this) and I get antsy.    I certainly haven't questioned anyone's real life morality over any of this crap (because, as I've said, Days truly is crap).  But I think I have a new and greater understanding of some of the dismay Spike haters may have felt (though, again, that does not mean that I agree.).  They (for their reasons, justified or not) felt the same way that I feel when I see people claim that EJ's murderous tendencies are perfectly understandable, that the Bradys are hypocrits, and that EJs obsession is starcrossed destined love.

I don't think it's the same thing as we're talking different genres.  The circumstances are entirely different.  Both EJ and Sami are human, not demon hybrids. Non-deaths and stupid plot stunts aside, Days isn't science fiction or a horror dramedy.  The relationships and storylines are different, told in a different format and the DiMera/Brady feud has been an ongoing storyline on the show for literally nearly thirty years.  But the whole TWOP thing makes it feel somewhat surreal to me.  1) Because it's like TWOP inverted. Wha-huh?  2)  Because it feels quite strange to me being on the other side of a black hat / white hat debate.    I'm usually on the ambiuous character's side.  I just don't see much room for ambiguity here.  Dude, he had a gun when he raped her.  He's threatening to murder her sister. Currently.  There's not a whole hell of a lot of wiggle room here.