I'm not crazy about fandoms is they are incredibly sexist and misogynistic at times, particularly (and this is weird, I know) women. For some reason there are a lot of women out there who have a deep ingrained subconscious hatred of their own gender and have weirdly worshiped the male gender as being superior. (Poor deluded fools.)
THIS cannot be said often enough, sadly; because it's true.
I think that for most girls and women the concept of being "good enough" is nonexistent or very hard-won. (This applies to boys and men as well but to a different degree. I've never met a man who says he hates his body; I've yet to meet a woman who won't tell you exactly what she thinks is wrong about her looks, her age, etc)
I think is that we are carefully trained to hate our own gender and hate ourselves (and if we dislike ourselves, how could we possibly be expected to like other women?) We absorb our mothers' anger and pain, which is passed down to us; we're bombarded by media images that tell us if ONLY we were perfect cooks and our whites were sparkling white; IF ONLY we were a few pounds thinner, a few years younger...and IF ONLY we were perfect mothers, or even wanted to be mothers (do we really or is that what's expected?), IF ONLY we gave in to the guys who wanted to sleep with us do we really or is that what's expected?) and so on....
We are not supposed to be angry, sad, imperfect, frustrated but we are; and we despise it in ourselves because deep down we're convinced it's not all right to feel that way or be that way. To be human.
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THIS cannot be said often enough, sadly; because it's true.
I think that for most girls and women the concept of being "good enough" is nonexistent or very hard-won. (This applies to boys and men as well but to a different degree. I've never met a man who says he hates his body; I've yet to meet a woman who won't tell you exactly what she thinks is wrong about her looks, her age, etc)
I think is that we are carefully trained to hate our own gender and hate ourselves (and if we dislike ourselves, how could we possibly be expected to like other women?) We absorb our mothers' anger and pain, which is passed down to us; we're bombarded by media images that tell us if ONLY we were perfect cooks and our whites were sparkling white; IF ONLY we were a few pounds thinner, a few years younger...and IF ONLY we were perfect mothers, or even wanted to be mothers (do we really or is that what's expected?), IF ONLY we gave in to the guys who wanted to sleep with us do we really or is that what's expected?) and so on....
We are not supposed to be angry, sad, imperfect, frustrated but we are; and we despise it in ourselves because deep down we're convinced it's not all right to feel that way or be that way. To be human.