Thing I Never Thought About...
Mar. 17th, 2014 02:29 pmFriday I had to take my pup in for her yearly vet check-up and before giving her vaccinations the vet tech looked at me and asked "Does she bite?"
Understandable question given that it was going to be a shot, a fecal sample, and a blood-draw AND the vet tech is a perfect stranger to both me and my dog, but it actually took me several seconds to process what she was asking. My expression must have been a 'Wha...?" It just never crosses my mind with Zoe. I've never even heard her growl (except in a pre-'barking at shadows' sense). At any rate she was a docile, if miserable, little angel during her shot and blood draw. No effort to even struggle or growl much less any of aggression.
Then, Saturday while walking her, I passed a neighbor (a very TIMID neighbor) who has a small 12 year old terrier. Timid neighbor looked at me helplessly, pointing to poop on her terrier's behind, and asked "What am I going to do?"
Again with my non-plussed "Wha...?" expression. "Er... wash it off?"
I mean, I know it's not NICE washing poop off a dog's behind, but it happens from time to time. At any rate, my entire thought process was "Yeah, it's gross, but what're you gonna do?"
But timid neighbor just went "I CAN'T! He {terrier} won't let me!"
Again, "Wha...?"
A male neighbor told timid elderly female neighbor, oh he'd do it for her. (I didn't even think to offer because I was still processing the fact that she was serious about not knowing what to do. She's had this dog for over ten years.). So male neighbor went inside, wet a paper towel and came back out to do so, and... yeah, small terrier was a small terror, growling, snapping, and having to be held by him while his wife (not timid owner of said terrier) wiped the dog's butt.
Meanwhile I had picked up my pup, holding her in my arms while this process was going on. The husband and wife who were dealing with elderly timid neighbor's terrier have a small son who looked up at me as I picked up Zoe and held her. He said somewhat wistfully that he wished he could do that with their Malti-poo, but that his dog wouldn't allow that.
All of which made me wonder... is Zoe really that comparatively docile?
I NEVER worry that Zoe is ever going to snap or bite. She's never exhibited any sign of aggression (apart from barking at a stray cat or dogs -- through window glass. It's amazing how brave a pane of glass can make her. ;) -- and even then she'll immediately back off if they so much as look at her). Zoe readily allows you to brush her teeth, for goodness sakes! And though she's no fan of brushing or baths, she simply sighs and wiggles a bit. That's all.
I know part of it is probably just conforming to breed standards. Her breed is listed as "lively with a soft temperment but mildly stubborn" and that pretty much describes Zoe to a T. But Zoe is just so mild natured that I simply never think about expecting aggression from her in just about any instance.
I don't know how timid neighbor deals with having a dog she fears will snap at her while doing something as simple as wiping poop off of him. (Especially because said neighbor IS so timid). Neighbor actually won't groom or bush her terrier either, but always takes him to a groomer instead. Wonder whether it's a case of his becoming aggressive because his owner is timid, or whether timid owner simply adopted a more aggressive dog than she should probably have (because after all, you're probably going to have to clean poop off your dog's butt at some point in its lifetime.)
Understandable question given that it was going to be a shot, a fecal sample, and a blood-draw AND the vet tech is a perfect stranger to both me and my dog, but it actually took me several seconds to process what she was asking. My expression must have been a 'Wha...?" It just never crosses my mind with Zoe. I've never even heard her growl (except in a pre-'barking at shadows' sense). At any rate she was a docile, if miserable, little angel during her shot and blood draw. No effort to even struggle or growl much less any of aggression.
Then, Saturday while walking her, I passed a neighbor (a very TIMID neighbor) who has a small 12 year old terrier. Timid neighbor looked at me helplessly, pointing to poop on her terrier's behind, and asked "What am I going to do?"
Again with my non-plussed "Wha...?" expression. "Er... wash it off?"
I mean, I know it's not NICE washing poop off a dog's behind, but it happens from time to time. At any rate, my entire thought process was "Yeah, it's gross, but what're you gonna do?"
But timid neighbor just went "I CAN'T! He {terrier} won't let me!"
Again, "Wha...?"
A male neighbor told timid elderly female neighbor, oh he'd do it for her. (I didn't even think to offer because I was still processing the fact that she was serious about not knowing what to do. She's had this dog for over ten years.). So male neighbor went inside, wet a paper towel and came back out to do so, and... yeah, small terrier was a small terror, growling, snapping, and having to be held by him while his wife (not timid owner of said terrier) wiped the dog's butt.
Meanwhile I had picked up my pup, holding her in my arms while this process was going on. The husband and wife who were dealing with elderly timid neighbor's terrier have a small son who looked up at me as I picked up Zoe and held her. He said somewhat wistfully that he wished he could do that with their Malti-poo, but that his dog wouldn't allow that.
All of which made me wonder... is Zoe really that comparatively docile?
I NEVER worry that Zoe is ever going to snap or bite. She's never exhibited any sign of aggression (apart from barking at a stray cat or dogs -- through window glass. It's amazing how brave a pane of glass can make her. ;) -- and even then she'll immediately back off if they so much as look at her). Zoe readily allows you to brush her teeth, for goodness sakes! And though she's no fan of brushing or baths, she simply sighs and wiggles a bit. That's all.
I know part of it is probably just conforming to breed standards. Her breed is listed as "lively with a soft temperment but mildly stubborn" and that pretty much describes Zoe to a T. But Zoe is just so mild natured that I simply never think about expecting aggression from her in just about any instance.
I don't know how timid neighbor deals with having a dog she fears will snap at her while doing something as simple as wiping poop off of him. (Especially because said neighbor IS so timid). Neighbor actually won't groom or bush her terrier either, but always takes him to a groomer instead. Wonder whether it's a case of his becoming aggressive because his owner is timid, or whether timid owner simply adopted a more aggressive dog than she should probably have (because after all, you're probably going to have to clean poop off your dog's butt at some point in its lifetime.)
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Date: 2014-03-17 07:57 pm (UTC)So I'm thinking there's something about the owners that's allowing the bad behavior.
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Date: 2014-03-17 08:50 pm (UTC)consequences of her actions ver quickly, though with Luna we are still training her and will probably have to do that for the rest of her life. I watch her like a hawk though , and reward her for good behavior. My mother states that Luna has a stubborn will and personality but she has is even more sturbborn and will not let her get away with aggressive behavior towards any other animals, such as our cats or other dogs, and espically humans. If she starts barking aggressively and won't stop, she gets placed in time out until she becomes calm. Luna also has a high fear factor and is high strung factor, and that might be the case in the child and small dog's case as well. But we are trying to over come Luna's behavior and let her know that her aggressive behavior in most situations are wrong and that she should not have her way in things and she should obey use. I have had to work with her on me doing her nails, and to not growl at us over food or bones. Because I not going to let her dicate to me that she is the boss over an item, if I need or want to remove something from her mouth, I will.
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Date: 2014-03-17 09:02 pm (UTC)But people don't take obedience classes for a variety of reasons : too much money, too busy, too lazy, etc. And that's truly a shame because most people keep their dogs indoors these days and living with something you're afraid of is something I just can't understand.
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Date: 2014-03-17 09:05 pm (UTC)Zoe and Gracie (mom's cat) clearly have jealousy issues with one another. Under most circumstances they get along fine. And under normal circumstances, Gracie could not possibly care any less about me, but after I had had Zoe cuddling in my lap and had set her down, suddenly I had a lap full of black cat. Zoe did not approve and sat barking in front of me until that cat moved.
Even then, though, there's nothing actually aggressive. Just voicing her disapproval.
They argue over my Dad's lap as well and he has been known to have both on top of him at the same time as a result. :)
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Date: 2014-03-17 09:10 pm (UTC)Zoe is in fact quite a soft temperment. I don't think she would do well with any sort of rough handling or even being spoken too roughly. I think she could easily grow quite fearful under poor circumstances.
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Date: 2014-03-18 02:03 pm (UTC)The dog I had as a kid reached the point that she knew the word "Bath." All you had to do was say the word and she'd hide under the bed. It got to where we had to spell the word. :)
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Date: 2014-03-18 02:22 pm (UTC)Dog's remember pain and like any creature don't want to do stuff that's painful.
I try to practice what I read in a book about handling Zoe's feet rather often so that she doesn't assume that feet-touching will be painful (though she's still hesistant about people handling her feet.)
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Date: 2014-03-18 02:26 pm (UTC)Of course, being a dachshund, she pretended to never learn even one word for "hush", "get down", "drop it", or "heel".
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Date: 2014-03-18 02:37 pm (UTC)At any rate, I would guess at some point in the distant pre-adoption past he's had a more negative experience with people than with dogs.
Another couple down the street recently adopted a rescue who had been abused -- almost certainly by a man -- because when talking they spoke about the way the dog readily accepted the wife and daughter but was quite cautious of the husband for several weeks.
And I think Zoe's love of my Dad, on the other hand, has made her predisposed to liking older men. There are several older men in my neighborhood that Zoe greets with big tail wags.
Dogs do indeed have memories. They do distinguish between good experiences and negative ones.
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Date: 2014-03-18 02:46 pm (UTC)Yeah, I think so. Dogs clearly have memories of bad experiences and enough knowledge to not want to repeat them. And any distressed animal in fear will react. (And of course there can be instances of actual aggression). But for the most part I think that a dog who is handled kindly and consistently will develop some trust.
And I think both cats and dogs remember the smell of the vet office. I've been with Zoe every second of her times visiting the vet and my vet is a very nice young woman who is always gentle. Zoe has never been out of my sight while there, and still she trembles almost the whole time at the vet's. I wonder if the place smells like fear [/drusilla]
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Date: 2014-03-19 01:04 am (UTC)Ditto on the nail cutting, but she lets me.
My Catie does not. She's never growled at anyone, or bitten anyone, and she's a scaredy cat, but when you go near her nails to clip them she freaks. It's fear, totally. Whoever had her before must have traumatized her.
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